My Words of "Wisdom"

Today I was asked for advice regarding some love life issues. HA! This is probably the first time in my life I felt I could actually give something worth listening to.

I told her what I wish I'd been told a year ago, well 10 years ago. Maybe someone telling me the same thing would have sunk in, made me question things, pushed me to make different choices, but in all likely hood-we all know I probably would have done everything in my power (like she will probably do as well) to forget or ignore every bit of instruction I was given.

What I told her was pretty simple...to be classy. Oh wait! Someone did tell me that, shoot!

I told her that if she was making excuses for him and things didn't seem right, they probably weren't. But when in doubt, and big shout out here to Miss Cynthia Hoff,  put Breakfast at Tiffany's on the TV, embrace Audrey Hepburn, and run the tub. Right now if you are thinking: Dammit, this is me... Pick out your favorite nail polish, find that old face mask you probably forgot you even had, shave your legs, buy a Cosmo, and for god's sake lose the phone. Do all the the things you never have time to do. Be busy!

The worst thing you can do when things aren't working out is to continue to try and make them. If he's worth it, he'll call. Sometimes it's better to forget your inner Feminist, just lock her in the closet for awhile. There's something to be said about being unavailable and just (foreign concept here) waiting. When you push it usually results directly with pushing away on the other side. In the age of technology it's too easy to throw yourself under the bus...just one little text, an accidental phone call maybe, or quick "Hey, what's up?" on Facebook. STOP! STOP! STOP! Holly Golightly didn't have a cell phone or profile, she didn't even answer her house phone. Pretend you don't either!

This morning I got ready while Superman cooked me breakfast, the car was already warm, and he even opened the door after we got coffee. He will tell any girl the same thing: if you're paying for dinner, calling him first or putting an ounce more in than he is-you're doing it wrong.

Why, why, why did I not learn my lesson sooner? Agggghhhhh! With that, good luck ladies, you've got to go through a lot of frogs to find a prince and in todays day and age-he's either gay or married.

Drynuary

Moving to Crested Butte is one of those things that changes a lot about a persons life.

Most people will tell you it changes the way you see the world, your lifestyle, how you drive, how often you need coffee, and what you do for fun. CB has a way of making people look in the mirror and see all the things they like and they don't like about themselves and the ways they have been living. What people wont tell you is that off season....when the tourists are all gone, work gets slow, and the weather is the less than the spectacular usual, people tend to add to the list of dislikes.

Spring off season is a lot colder, much slower, and longer than the off season before it and I wanted to make sure that when I looked in the mirror I didn't have to make any excuses. Instead, I decided (key word here!) that January could be a month for starting my year off right. With Spring semester starting it was important for me to have a clear head to get moving in my classes and start making the decisions I needed to with graduation looming closer every day. I needed more energy, more time, and more money.

 Let me tell you-I've found the answer! For the month of January, and much to Mikey's dismay maybe for some degree of permanency, I'm not drinking. Apparently such a lifestyle change is shocking to the good people of Crested Butte and I'm often told, "So just beer right?" or "Just drinking on the weekends then?" Nope, it's cold turkey, as in Shirley Temples and H2O. I've recently been told to call my "big decision" Drynuary. But in all honestly it's easier to ask for a lime, the same cup as everyone else and pretend nothing is happening. Easier said than done with bartender boyfriend.

Enjoy the sunshine while it last! I have a feeling that the January weather we have all been waiting for is just around the corner...

One Little Word 2014

Well hello and HAPPY NEW YEAR! I'm sorry that lately I've basically been anti blog. There's really no excuse, but busyness and carelessness. New Years resolution this year? To decide. Which brings us to this blog post… 2014 is for me, a big year and I want it to be one that is free of excuses and carelessness altogether. With all of the big "real person" choices I have coming up I needed something to push me and get me thinking deeper about what's really going on in this crazy head of mine- so I found One Little Word. It's a sort of online creative classroom to guide people for the year with the core concept of picking one word that you want to incorporate into your life for the year. My New Years resolutions never seem to pan out farther than January 1st so I think maybe the class, which has monthly assignments will keep me in tune with this years. With that…my word for the year is….

                                                  

Definition: To make a final choice or judgement as a result of consideration and thought.

Thesaurus: To determine, resolve, persuade, convince, choose, conclude, figure, pick, find, and intention.

And the one I want to make sure is in no way part of my life not only this year, but ever? Settle. 

I want to become less hypocritical when I say to people, "You can't just wait for life to fall on your plate." I want to be less reactive and more proactive This year is the year I graduate, the year I need to not only step up, but look forward, and the year that I want to decide exactly what I want in my life and what I don't. Though I am happy to say I am where I am now, after four years of college, I am still unsure if it was something I actually chose, myself, to do. I want to make sure that I stop doing what just comes naturally, take where the wind blows me into account, but actively decide to be who, what and where I am. I need to knowingly make decisions this year, big and small, that will more positively impact my life. Purposeful decisions. Right now all I am decided on is being happy, that I would have a hard time being happy in a city and that I love people. But there are very few areas of my life where I am deliberate and intentional. I am promising myself-to each day live more from intention and less from habit, to make the kinds decisions that build stories I would be proud to tell a thousand times.

In 2014, I want more laughing, smiling, happy dances, deep conversations, friends, success, time with Toby, love, adventures, faith, sunshine, stories. I want more meaning-more purpose. What I want less of is wasted time. I want less stress, drinking, tears, people with hurt feelings, spending money. I am deciding to have more of the things and emotions I want and tossing aside the ones I don't. What do I most fear in 2014? Regret. What am I most excited about in 2014? Finishing school and maybe, just maybe, finding more ME.

I invite you to pick a word-to surround yourself with it and let it bring whatever meaning you need it to into your life. Sometimes we need a push to get us to see what we should have just been jumping in with both feet for all along. So what's your New Years Resolution? What's your word?

If you want to participate with me click here and let me know!